3 Reasons Why It Is Dangerous to Trust Your Feelings Over God’s Word When Dating as a Christian Single Woman
Hey Queen!
In the journey of dating, emotions often run high. While feelings are a natural part of relationships, they are not always reliable guides. As Christians, trusting God’s Word over fleeting emotions is essential for making wise, God-honoring decisions. Here are three reasons why relying solely on feelings can be dangerous when dating:
1. Feelings Can Be Deceptive
Emotions are influenced by circumstances, desires, and even hormones. They can cloud your judgment and lead you to ignore red flags or settle for less than God’s best for your life.
Why This Is Dangerous:
• You may mistake infatuation or attraction for genuine love and compatibility.
• Your emotions can tempt you to justify unhealthy behaviors or relationships.
• Overemphasizing feelings may cause you to prioritize temporary happiness over long-term spiritual health.
What to Do Instead:
• Measure your feelings against the truth of God’s Word.
• Seek wise counsel from trusted Christian mentors or friends.
• Pray for discernment and clarity, asking God to guide your heart.
Key Verse: “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” — Jeremiah 17:9
2. God’s Word Provides a Steady Foundation
Unlike feelings, which can change day by day, and sometimes even multiple times a day, God’s Word is unchanging and reliable. It provides clear principles for relationships, helping you make decisions based on truth rather than emotion.
Why This Is Dangerous:
• Relying on feelings alone can lead to impulsive decisions that contradict God’s will.
• Without a foundation in Scripture, you may struggle to discern whether a relationship aligns with God’s purpose for your life.
• Emotional decision-making can lead to regret or spiritual compromise.
What to Do Instead:
• Study Scripture to understand God’s design for love, marriage, and relationships.
• Reflect on whether your relationship aligns with biblical principles like mutual respect, purity, and spiritual growth.
• Trust that God’s guidance through his word is for your ultimate good.
Key Verse: “Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” — Psalm 119:105
3. Feelings Can Lead to Compromise
When emotions take the lead, it’s easy to compromise on your values and convictions. You might ignore God’s boundaries or lower your standards to maintain a relationship that feels good in the moment.
Why This Is Dangerous:
• Compromising your faith or values can distance you from God and his plan for your life.
• You may enter a relationship that hinders your spiritual growth rather than encouraging it.
• Emotional compromise often leads to unhealthy patterns and regret later.
What to Do Instead:
• Set clear, biblical boundaries for your dating life and stick to them.
• Regularly evaluate whether your relationship is drawing you closer to God or pulling you away.
• Trust that God’s plans for you are better than anything your feelings might promise.
Key Verse: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” — Romans 12:2
Feelings are a gift from God, but they are not meant to guide your decisions. Trusting God’s Word over your emotions ensures that your dating relationship aligns with his will and purpose. By seeking his truth and prioritizing your faith, you can build a relationship that honors him and stands the test of time.
Would you like tips on balancing emotions with biblical principles to guide your Christian dating journey? Let me know in the comments section.
Remember Queen, you do not have to walk this journey alone. Let me hold your hand and walk with you.
Until next time, take care!
